amy june | modern love therapist on Instagram: "1. Intentional pacing & steadiness Even when there’s chemistry, the slow burn is steady. It resists the urge to rush even when that’s *exactly* what we want to do. Sprinting toward relationship milestones is our attempt at controlling what can’t be controlled. Slowing down asks us to build our capacity to sit with the unknown. Also, the slow burn still *progresses*. It might not be perfectly linear, but the intimacy builds, and that predictability